No relationship is ever broken unless you give up. Rebuilding a relationship is not easy after an Anger Outburst. You may feel angry, discouraged and disappointed. But stay, and work through it.
Psychologist Dr. Prerna Kohli
First of all controlling emotions is the first step namely in rebuilding a relationship. It is most important to create a rationale environment for healthy communication and conflict resolution by learning how to control your anger.
Furthermore, what is more, important than anger is how it is expressed, is it appropriate? Anger is a primary emotion like joy, fear, happiness, and sadness. Fury is not something to be thrown out of the system but rather maintained from not blowing up.
Anger outburst leads to feelings of mistrust, hurt and betrayal. In conclusion, anger may also end up destroying your relationship. How does one repair this broken relationship?
Taking time out
Cooling off before re-engaging to resolve or addressing whatever needs to be addressed is more likely to work in helping control anger and its consequences. Taking time or walking away does not mean you are avoiding the issue but having some time to calm yourself down.
Understand the impact
It is impossible to work your brains while having an outburst. The major task at hand is to own up to your emotions. Above all, try to comprehend the repercussions of your anger reactivity. Most importantly, collecting your thoughts in times of stress before saying anything to the other person eliminates the hurt and pain that might be caused.
Forgive
Above all it is impossible to regain trust without letting go of the grudge and finding inner peace with the situation. Forgiveness is not about the other person’s anger but for own emotional freedom. When going through the situation, we tend to blame ourselves and are too critical of ourselves. It is important to forgive yourself and the other person.
Support one another
Even more, the best way to rebuild the relationship is to support each other in this journey of flaws and growth. Offering compassion helps find the lost love and something positive to look forward to. Nothing can be stronger than working on the relationship together.
Go out
Overbearing anger in parts of your life can be exhausting. It is vital to let off some steam and take a day or a few days out of routine to rekindle in a new, neutral environment.
Get professional help
Finally, building a relationship post anger outburst is difficult. It is highly recommended to get help individually and together from an experienced psychologist to help resolve the issues and build a healthy relationship.
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