“Your children don’t deserve your anger, hurt or pain. Instead shower them with love, compassion and empathy. Think of them as little people and not children”
Dr. Prerna Kohli
Firstly, Anger is a powerful emotion which may be more destructive if not expressed productively. Likewise, anger can be expressed in two ways- exploding and imploding. Furthermore, as the words suggest, explosive anger can be heard, felt, and sensed. Whereas, implosive anger is quiet, and goes unnoticed. It often moderates to severe depression.
Modeling is the process when an individual learns a certain behavior by observing others. Parents are the primary teacher to the children and children imitate the primary caregiver’s angry attitudes and behaviors and learning anger. Because of exposure to parental angry directly or indirectly, the child develops poor over-all adjustment and various other issues.
Effects of angry parents on children:
- The child becomes more aggressive and less empathetic.
- Likewise, they might also develop depression, social alienation, spouse abuse.
- The child also happens to gain fear, anxiety and low self-esteem.
- Children have troubles regulating their emotions and anger.
- They also have feeble problem-solving skills and low perceptual learning.
Moreover, taking a deep breath and other various relaxation techniques help control anger at the immediate necessity. Because finding your trigger and understanding your thought has been proven to reason with anger. You will find many tips and techniques in other articles on this website to manage your anger.
Benefits of healthy coping of anger around kids:
- Calm interaction with children
- Become less afraid of the child’s anger
- Can model coping with anger effectively
- Less likely to be harmful in anger outburst
- Feel more in charge and confident
In conclusion, if you feel that your anger management issues are impacting the wellbeing of your child, please consult with an experienced Psychologist.
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