People tend to throw the “D” word around carelessly; young couples, midlife, as well as older couples rapidly give divorce to each other in urban India.
Thus, here are seven things that are rarely discussed about divorce, and the divorcees learn about them the hard way.
Divorce feels a bit like death;
You are not only without your spouse but also their friends and family. You may have become extremely close to your spouse’s siblings, friends and family, but because of their loyalty to your spouse, they may sever all ties with you
Post-split life is kind of boring;
The process of divorce is full of drama, he said, she said, the lawyer said, the family said, all of a sudden post the divorce there is a vacuum in your life, which needs to be filled constructively
There is no “right” way to be divorced;
Also, there is no perfect “divorce” the emotional baggage remain.
It can turn ugly. Really ugly;
Moreover, don’t believe anyone who says divorce is easy or amicable.
You might second-guess your decision;
Thus, it is not uncommon to regret divorce post the decree. Thus, Counselling for both the spouses is strongly recommended during and post the divorce
Your family and friends may react in unexpected ways;
Also, Even those whom you consider very close to you may not appreciate or support your decision of divorce
A psychologist is just as important as a lawyer;
Lastly, the emotional baggage of divorce needs to be managed, or it leads to lifelong issues.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee .
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides pre-marriage, marriage, and post marriage (divorce) counseling.
