Whoever thought that bullying was a childhood problem and as children grow up to be adults bullying ends, was extremely naive. Bullies come in all ages and sizes. If your neighbour or colleague at work is a bully, then you can learn to avoid them. But if your boss is bullying your career can have serious consequences.
Many times, people have a problem in recognizing if their boss is a bully. Thus, they assume that the boss is “tough” It is important to understand what is bullying? Bullying is an unacceptable behavior among children or adults. Thus, Bullying is the use of force, coercion, threats, intimidation or aggressive behavior to dominate or subjugate others.
Given below are seven signs to recognize if your boss is a bully:
Verbally abuses you
Intimidates you on a regular basis
Questions your capabilities or your commitment
Intrudes on your privacy, spies on you
Undermines your work, and doesn’t allow you to succeed
Spreads rumors about you
Isolates you at work, doesn’t include you in team activities, and work related social activities
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If you observe even a few of these traits in your boss, then there is a high likelihood of your boss being a bully. Also, there are specific steps that you need to take to protect yourself from his bullying; these may include keeping a detailed log of the “bullying” activities and also reporting his behaviour to HR.
If you find that the stress of dealing with a “bully” boss is taking a toll on your mental wellness, it is an excellent opportunity to meet with an experienced psychologist.
“You can talk with a close friend or relative about what’s troubling you; but it’s not the same as professionally-trained experienced psychologist who knows exactly what kind of help you need” – Dr. Prerna Kohli.
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About Dr. Prerna Kohli
She is a 100 women Achievers Award Winner (2016) from the Honorable President of India, Shri Pranab Mukherjee.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a Clinical Psychologist, a Public Speaker, a Workshop Facilitator and a Holistic Practitioner. She offers Heart-based workshops and lectures that focus on Life Balance, Self-awareness and Inner Peace. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassion with others, Prerna blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Emotional change.
Dr. Prerna Kohli is a leading Psychologist in India and provides families, individuals, parents and children counselling on being happy.
