To the single person, the life of a married couple seems ideal. The married person always has a companion, someone to love and be loved by at all times. On the other hand, if you ask a married person they will tell you that married life is not a bed of roses, and there are many ups and downs and compromises in a marriage. Those of you, who have found an ideal mate are extremely fortunate and lucky, and their life will most likely be bliss.
Those who haven’t found a mate that is compatible with them will have a life full of challenges and stress, and the marriage can even end in divorce. Divorce in itself is extremely stressful, mentally, physically and also financial draining. While there is no sure shot way of identifying an ideal mate, given below are 5 pointers that will help you decide if the person you are considering to marry is right for you. This list is applicable to both men and women.
How does this person make you feel?
When you are with this person which emotions are evoked in you? Is it happiness, stress, joy, sadness, confusion? Do you enjoy the time you spend with this person? If the feelings aren’t positive, and happy, you may be heading towards a danger zone.
Do both of you have similar life goals?
Are your goals similar, do both of you want children, what do you think about success, finances, how much do you care about the size of the house, the number of cars and the job title.
Do both of you share similar beliefs?
Are your religious beliefs the same? Cross religion marriages cause stress, if one of you is an atheist, and the other one is deeply religious this can lead to turmoil in the family. Do you share the same beliefs on food (vegetarian vs non-vegetarian), alcohol, drugs etc?
Would this person get along with your friends and family?
Would this person gel well with you immediate family? Will your parents accept him or her as another child? Will your siblings enjoy his or her company? What about your friends?
Are you physically attracted to him or her?
Is there physical attraction towards this person? Do you like their smile, the twinkle in their eyes? Does the aesthetics of their face, body structure appeal to you?
In conclusion, if you find that you are incompatible with the person, it is best to end the relationship sooner than later. It is not sensible to invest time and emotions in a relationship which may not have a long term viability. Eventually it is your life, and you are the person who will spend the next several decades with this person. Choose wisely.
