Falling in love or entering into a relationship is a beautiful experience in itself. But, it hurts a lot when the other breaks-up. A recent study has shown that break-ups in teenagers and young adults are one of the biggest reasons for depression in them. Sometimes, it even leads to suicide as the emotional bond breaks.
Going through a break-up puts a lot of physical and mental stress to the person. Breaking up means destroying an emotional bond, and an attachment which the person has actually made and worked for. A certain intimacy is generated between the couple which is destroyed in an instant. But, that intimacy is not easily removed from the mind. It leaves behind an emotional trace, which needs to be healed.
Hence, below are 7 ways to cope up post break-up:
1. Write it:
One of the best ways is to write it down. Suppression of one’s emotions is the most normal response one takes. But, it is not a normal response to fall back to. One needs to feel the emotions, and there are a lot of emotions one feels during a break-up. Expressing one’s anger, sadness, loneliness, feelings of rejection and writing them down, helps with coping. Hence, writing your feelings without any judgement helps a lot.
2. Eat Right:
After a break-up, we start to change our eating patterns. A revenge mode comes up, or we start to eat a lot. Thus, eating our feelings or punishing ourselves. Hence, it is important to eat a proper well-maintained diet, without changing our dietary schedules. Eating a protein-rich and high fibre diet helps in elevation of mood. Indulging in junk food or skipping meals will harm your body a lot.
3. Exercise:
After a break-up, there is a tendency to sit at home and cry a lot or wallow in sadness. Or, another reaction which happens is to over-exercise. But, both of these coping mechanisms damage your own health. Post break up, it is important to do good cardio exercises. This way, your body is in motion and the mind is getting refreshed. Also, exercising releases certain chemicals which lowers body stress levels.
4. Focus on the Positives:
When someone goes through a loss, there are a lot of emotions which one goes through. But, most of these emotions are negative. Thus, making it difficult to focus on the positive emotions, hence restricting your view and perspective to only the negatives. The best way to focus on the positives is to keep a “positive journal”. In the journal, you can write things which actually happened positive for you that day. At the start, you might have to think very hard, but slowly the negatives will lift off, and it will become easier for you to focus on the positives.
5. Do thinks YOU love to do:
It is hard to resume things you loved to do post-breakup. But, it is important to resume them. Indulging in things you liked to do, will start making you feel happy. It can be going out with your friends for a cup of coffee, or even binge-watching a comedy TV show with your friends. Laughing and self-care will help you cope up with your emotions better. Thus, doing things you love to do will help you love yourself.
6. Use a “Timer” to Rant:
It is natural after a break-up that you start thinking about your ex or constantly talk about them to your friends for months or weeks. Thus, finding the obsession with their thoughts uncontrollable. But, it can be stopped. To stop it, you can set aside a particular “timer” for yourself. This time can be 5 minutes a day or 10 minutes a day. In this time, you can talk or rant or write all you want to talk about your ex, but when the timer goes out, you need to say yourself stop. After this, you will tell yourself that now you will talk about the person tomorrow. Then, slowly over time reducing the timer. Hence, helping yourself getting over obsessive thoughts about them.
7. Give to Others:
Helping others and giving back to others makes us feel better about ourselves. Thus, helping us find our own self-worth and smile. Thus, one of the best ways to cope up after a break-up is to give others and present others with your love.
Sometimes, these things are not enough and the world feels a very sad place. After going through a break-up, symptoms of depression might come up. Hence, if you or your friend seems to be going through a break-up and you want someone to talk to, you can always choose counselling and therapy as an option.
