Divorce Counselling
“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” – Lao Tzu
A generation ago, the word divorce would be considered to be a big no-no. In the Indian context, there were very few divorces that took place. In most instances, the couple continued to live together unhappily under pressure from friends and family. Thus, the fear of society and what society would say.
Today the numbers of divorces in urban India are skyrocketing. While still very few compared to the United States of America. It is an estimation there that one of every two marriages will end up in divorce.
“If you are going through hell. Keep Going” – Winston Churchill
In my private practice I have seen that divorce counselling can be a need in the following stages:
Pre-separation: Either of the spouses has considered divorce; divorce has crept up in the arguments and fights. At this stage, marriage counselling is extremely helpful. Thus, Both of the spouses can have a healthy marriage. Also, live and love each other, if they want. Addressing and progressing through major issues like infidelity is important. Hence, the parameters of a healthy marriage established.
Separation: At this time the spouses attempt to have a trial separation, either one of them has moved out of the marital home, taken alternate and separate living accommodation and/or moved back to their parental home. At this stage counselling from an experienced psychologist is extremely beneficial, as there is a significant opportunity to resolve issues and maintain a healthy relationship. Couple counselling is the way to proceed. The chances of a marriage ending in divorce is high if one of the spouses don’t agree. marriage will end in divorce.
Divorce: During the period of 12-18 months, while the legal proceedings are underway, intense counselling is given to strengthen the individual emotionally and spiritually to handle living as a single person.
Post Divorce: There is an avalanche of emotions, accompanied by change in financial, marital, emotional and societal changes. The individual is extremely venerable and frequently rebounds to other unhealthy relationships, addictions, etc., and requires one-on-one counselling to be able to address the challenges ahead.
