Bully Daughter-in-law?
Yes, it is possible that your son’s dear wife is bully. Hence, it is your misfortune that you daughter-in-law is a bully. She resents you, her mother-in-law, and as a result of that, in covert or not so coveted fashion she is bullying you. So, nothing you do is correct, even when you help her raise her children or help in the kitchen. Thus, in her attention, your focus is always on her husband and you are always trying to destroy their relationship.
More often than not, people don’t realize that their daughter-in-law is a bully. People often shrug off this idea by rationalizing that it is her who is feeling difficult to settle down and you are the one who is not able to understand her. Even when you try and discuss this with your son, he dismisses the idea by saying, “she is doing whatever she can do”. Here, it is first important to know, what is bullying? Bullying is an unacceptable act or behavior among children. Hence, bullying is the use of force, threats, coercion, intimation and/or aggressive and dominant behavior to subjugate the other.
The following seven points are indications that your daughter-in-law is a bully. If you observe these behaviours in her; it is a good opportunity to talk to an experienced psychologist:
- She prevents you to make a contact with your son or grandchildren.
- Refuses to have any contact with you, what so ever, thus skipping on opportunities to communicate
- Makes snide comments about you, in presence of other family members, trying to belittle you
- She will not allow you to visit your son
- Makes you feel as if you are a burden in the family and always trying to destroy your relationships.
- Manipulates her husband and you by crying, misbehaving or pouting till everyone agrees to her demands.
- Saying hurtful and mean things to you.
If you feel that your daughter-in-law is a bully, then the first person you need to talk to is your son. Thus, it is his duty also to sort out the situation and act as a buffer and medium between the two of you. If you find the stress dealing with a “bully” daughter-in-law is taking a toll on your mental well-being it is an excellent opportunity to meet with an experienced counselor.
