Either your husband or boyfriend confessed to you, or by some other means you found out that he is a bisexual. A bisexual man will be sexually attracted to both men and women.
What are your options? Do you end your relationship? Will you waste away all the emotions that you have invested in this relationship?
Is it your belief that a bisexual man is just a secret homosexual man? A homosexual man who is hiding his homosexuality by calling himself a bisexual?
The reality of the fact is that a silent major of men are bisexual, they are attracted both to men and women, and this is completely normal and acceptable. What is most important is, is your significant other monogamous?
The Kinsey Report
One of the most respected Psychologists in the field of Human Sexuality has been Alfred Kinsey. Very few researchers since then have conducted such in-depth studies on Human Sexuality. In 1948 Alfred Kinsey published his report call the “Sexual Behavior in the Human Male” and in 1953 the followup report was called the “Sexual Behavior in the Human Female”.
Kinsey classified humans beings in the range of 0 to 6, where 0 is completely heterosexual and 6 is completely homosexual. They also have a classification called “X” where there is no interest in sex.
Most women who find out that their partner is bisexual are worried that he will cheat on them. Or that they won’t be able to handle if their partner cheated on them with another man. The reality is that cheating is a personality trait and not a sexual trait.
According to Kinsey, it is estimated that:
10% of the population is homosexual
25% of the population is heterosexual
What is Right & What is Wrong?
Let’s assume you are in a relationship with a heterosexual man. Is there any guarantee that your heterosexual partner can’t have an affair with another woman? Is there any surety that he isn’t fantasizing about other women while he is being intimate with you?
Finally, what is more important than your partner is monogamous or heterosexual. Are you willing to accept a heterosexual partner who is not monogamous vs. a bisexual partner who is monogamous?
If you are unsure on what you need to do, please seek marital counselling from an experienced Psychologist.
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